There are a couple of times when we wished that we weren’t related to someone. May it be our aunts, uncles, parents, or cousins, these people subject us to emotional and physical abuse. Often, this abuse has gone on for years.

You don’t have to spend every waking day of your life dealing with them.

Perhaps what’s worst about dealing with toxic and abusive family members is other members know about it. They allow it under the radar and delivered under the guise of gaslighting. However, many people choose to stay to remain in contact with family members and it is understandable.

For example, a child may still communicate with their parent even though they were horrible to the child. Oftentimes, people in an abusive family lack confidence and they have this misplaced guilt. They feel that they are treated badly because it is their fault and that they deserve this abusive treatment.

It is heartbreaking to know that victims experience guilt for actions they have no control over.

That’s why cutting your family off is a good way to free yourself from a toxic environment. However, people who choose to do so are considered selfish. Most people don’t know about the emotional abuse experienced by the victim that they side with the perpetrators.

How do you know when to leave?

Here are three signs to know when to finally cut yourself off from a toxic family.

Watch out for these signs.

1.When there is nothing positive about the relationship.

2. They treat you negatively it is severely impacting you.

Cutting yourself from family is a heartbreaking and difficult decision. Despite the abuse you experienced with them, you still hold on for hope that they may change. however, if you are already emotionally spent then it’s best to cut ties.

You have the right to be happy and free. Distance yourself from this toxic environment because it can really impact you. Some individuals lash out at others to relieve the stress they experience at home. Instead of waiting for the time, you will break, it’s best to cut ties now.

3. When you become aware that you’ve been abused.

Abuse can be in a lot of forms. Sometimes we perceive them as normal. Remember the time when your dad hit you? Your mum says, “Everyone was like that then, and let’s not talk about it after all your dad’s done for you.” How about the time your siblings became aggressive with you, but your parents excused his behavior?

When you are raised in this kind of environment, it is difficult to understand that you were abused. But, if there came a time that you realize this, it’s time to distance yourself. Don’t give excuses for them because abuse is abuse.

Cutting tie is a difficult process, but the rewards are far greater. You will experience a happier and more peaceful life. So, if you know anyone experiencing abuse, share this article with them.

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Source: PsychologyToday