Everyone gets annoyed when their partner does certain things. It’s one of the most basic relationship problems. But this wife has revealed how everyone can learn to get past those annoying habits.

No one couple is perfect. It may look that way from the outside, but behind closed doors, there are always disagreements.

That means that everyone has two choices: either you learn to deal with your partner’s flaws or you never form a meaningful relationship.

Relationships take a lot of work, and much of that work comes from learning to live with someone else in a harmonious and non-toxic manner.

There is no one size fits all solution. But one woman has made an incredibly profound point that everyone can consider.

Caitlin Fladager did something pretty astonishing nowadays. She married her high school sweetheart.

Most people told her that it would never work out. Many people say that your first love should not be your last love. But she was so deeply in love with him that she was determined to make it work.

That’s when reality hit. When Caitlin and her husband moved in with each other, things got hard. Both of them got stressful jobs and had to face the fact that life with a spouse wasn’t one big date.

In particular, there was one thing that would really upset Caitlin. Her husband would never put his worn clothes in the laundry hamper. Instead, the clothes were strewn all over the household. She’d find used shirts, socks and underwear in the living room, the bathroom and even in the kitchen.

Caitlin had come from a home where cleanliness was next to godliness, so this behavior was incredibly grating to her, at first.

“I thought to myself, ‘Oh my god THIS! It’s so annoying'” – Caitlin.

But then one day, something happened that changed her mind completely. Her husband came home after a long day of work, took his clothes off and went into the shower.

In the corridor, Caitlin saw the clothes heaped on the floor. At first, she got mad, but then something about the clothes changed her mind.

She saw that there were stains all over the clothes. Her husband’s labor-intensive job meant that his clothes often ended up like this. She also noticed just how sweaty the clothes were. Clearly, he’d been working extra hard that day.

And that’s when she realized that, though she had a right to be annoyed at the clothes on the floor, she knew that her husband was just exhausted from work.

So Caitlin put the clothes into the hamper and didn’t shout at her husband. When her husband had finished up his shower, he thanked his wife for putting his clothes away. He also explained that he had had a long day.

Caitlin responded that that was obvious from the state of his clothes.

“Sometimes the things that annoy us can be looked at differently.” – Caitlin.

So many arguments around the home are caused due to one person not understanding what the other person is going through. It’s just a fact of life. As humans, we’re programmed to get annoyed first and ask questions later. But Caitlin shows that we can also be mature enough to hold back our annoyance and ask why someone else is doing something that annoys us.

If more people approached their marital issues with a mindset of “why is my partner doing something that annoys me?” instead of just “I’m going to fight my partner over the things I don’t like about them,” then the world would be a much more loving place.

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Source: Love What Matters