Woman has her boyfriend's dog put down without asking him and stirs controversy
When we’re bored, there’s on place we go to if we wanna hear experiences and touchy stories from other people: Reddit. And one subreddit that really reaches audiences beyond the site is AITA, or “Am I The A**hole”.
Well, this woman posted to Reddit’s AITA subreddit asking if she was wrong to put her boyfriend’s dog down.
That short description above doesn’t really convey everything, so keep reading to see all the nuances of the situation.
User u/Iputhisdogdown, going with a throwaway account for privacy’s sake, shared the story.
Her boyfriend’s dog of 16 years was in no good shape. It suffered a host of medical problems, the most prominent of which was “rotated” front legs.
This made it agonizing and painful for the dog to get up.
She made it clear that she loved this dog every bit as much as her boyfriend did. She couldn’t bear to watch it suffer, and she wanted something done about it.
The vets they’d visited together mostly recommended putting the dog down – something she agreed with. But her boyfriend wasn’t as keen.
To him, as painful as it was to watch the dog suffer, he just couldn’t quite let go of his childhood best friend.
This really tore away at her conscience. To her, the dog’s suffering was beginning to outweigh her boyfriend’s feelings on the matter.
She did what she felt was necessary.
When her boyfriend was out one day, she informed his family that she planned to have the dog put down.
Obviously, she told him too – but over the phone. I should stress that she wasn’t asking for permission from him. She just told him for transparency’s sake.
“I was sick of watching my boyfriend dismiss the pain this dog was obviously in; he ignored vets telling him to get this dog put down because it was borderline abuse keeping him alive.”
She has a point. “Borderline abuse” is how I might have put it too. But was this enough reason for her to put his dog down without his permission? That, I’m not totally sure. And neither were many of the commenters.
With the boyfriend’s family present, she had the dog put down. That was taken care of, and he didn’t like that at all.
He was furious and heartbroken. “Betrayed” may not even describe things perfectly, but it fits the bill.
She was kicked out from the home they were renting together, and they broke up (obviously).
The comments are divided on what to feel. Most of them rated this an ESH for “everyone sucks here”.
In other words, OP’s feelings were valid but they didn’t justify her course of action.
“ESH. He should have done something but you can’t really just put down other people’s pets when they go out for the night”
“You did the right thing putting the dog down but you can’t expect him to get over you putting down his dog without giving him a chance to say goodbye.”
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AITA for putting my boyfriends dog down without permission?
by u/IputHisdogDown in AmItheAsshole
Source: Reddit – AITA